Muma1970 kuburikidza ne "90s" Rudzi rweA, runotungamirirwa, unhu hutsinye hwakanga huri hutsinye nokuti vanhu ava vaiva nezvakange zvichida kukwira makambani ekukwirira uye kurova maitiro. Zvadaro masayendisiti ezvehutano akawana kuti rudzi rwevanhu A rwakanga rwakawedzererwa nehutano hwemwoyo, kunyanya nekuda kwekukwirira kwavo kwekuratidzira kune vamwe.
Kuongorora kukuru kwevashandi vanopfuura 20 000 muEurope kwakaratidza kuti kuva nemabiko akaipa kunowedzera ngozi yomushandi wehutano hwemoyo. Zvinoratidzika sokunge kusina mwoyo kunokanganisa mwoyo wako.
The Downside of Grit
Zvizvarwa zvakapfuura zvingaita kuti titende kuti kana iwe ukashanda zvakaoma, munhu wose anogona kuita chero chinhu. Munguva pfupi yapfuura, Angela Duckworth akawedzera kuongorora kwakaratidza kuti grit, kuti kushambadzira kwemashiripiti ekutsungirira uye kuchiva, ndicho chinhu chinoita kuti basa ribudirire sezvinotsanangurwa nemari, mari yekugutsikana, uye kugadzirwa. Zvakanaka, mazuva awa apera sezvo vane zviuru zvemakore vasingatarisiri zvishoma pamusoro pemazita nemari yekubhadhara uye zvakawanda pamusoro pehutano uye hutano hwevanhu.
Grit inogona kufanotaura kubudirira kwebasa asiwo ine zvimwe zvakakosha. Kana iwe ukatsanangura kubudirira se "kuenderera mberi mubhizinesi rezvebhizimisi," zvino kukurudzirwa uye nzvimbo dzepamusoro zvinonyatsoshamisira gritty. Daniel Goleman, munyori akatengesa zvakanyanyisa uyo akawedzera pfungwa yekunzwisisa kwepfungwa, anotaura zvinokurudzira kutsvakurudza kuratidza kuti vanhu vane tsitsi vanowanzove vakazvitarisira ivo pachavo, zvakaoma kufambidzana navo, uye vanotungamirirwa kuti vanodzinga vamwe kubva.
Havasi vatambi vemakwikwi akanaka kwazvo uye vatungamiri.
Ichokwadi, vashandirwi vakawanda vanotarisa mamwe maitiro kunze kwekunyora pavanenge vashandira. Grit inokosha, uye kwete iyo chete inofanirwa kubudirira. Kutorwa uri woga, grit inogona kunge iri chikwereti mumazuva ano emamiriro ekunze.
Kubudirira Kwese Nezvekubatana uye Ukama Skills
Saka chii chakavanzika chekubudirira basa nhasi?
Tsvakurudzo inotsanangura kune umwe anokunda zvakajeka: hukama uye hukama hwehukama.
Seth Godin, hutungamiri uye guru guru rebhizimisi, anoti tiri kurarama muhupfumi hwehutano, uko kukwanisa kushamwaridzana nevamwe nekubatanidza vanhu kune mumwe kune zvakakosha.
IEuropean Journal of Personality yakabudisa ruzivo rwakakwana rwekubudirira kwebasa, kuwana kuti kukwanisa kugadzira uye kurera ruzivo rwakawanda rwehukama hunofanotaura nezvehupenyu hunobudirira muupenyu hwose.
Izvo zvisina kuchinja pane makore zana apfuura ndeyekuti iwe unoziva chii nyaya kune izvo zvaunoziva. Kusiyana kweukama kunovhura mikana nemikana. Vanhu vanobatsira vanhu vavanoziva uye vanovimba.
Muna 2015, Forbes yakarondedzera nezvekutsvaga kubva kune zvidzidzo zvakasiyana-siyana zvevezera, zvichiratidza kuti kungova mukana wakazaruka panzvimbo yekuvhara ndiyo ndiyo yakanakisisa yekuita basa rekubudirira. Kuramba wakashama kune pfungwa itsva, kudzidza zvinhu zvitsva, nekusangana nevanhu vatsva kunokosha mukubatana kwehupfumi.
Chiitiko chedu chekushanda pamwe nevatungamiri pamusana pekukurukurirana uye unyanzvi hwekukonana kunoratidza zvakafanana. Tinoongorora uye tinodzidzisa hutano hunotungamirira hutungamiri hutatu:
- Kuvhura
- Resourcefulness
- Kushivirira
Chimwe nechimwe chakakosha asi hachina kukwana hutungamiri hukuru.
Pamwe chete, izvi zvinogadzira izvo zvatinotenda ndiyo tsanangudzo yakachena yekunzwira tsitsi, kurwisana nevamwe pane kuvarwisa.
Kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti vatungamiri avo vane dambudziko rokutungamirira zvakajeka zvikamu zvishoma zvakanyanya mu Openness. Uye vezera ravo uye vateveri vanobvumirana kuti ichi chikwereti. Mukubatana kwehupfumi, isu hatigoni kukwanisa kuparadza simba rinopesana nevamwe kune nzira dzinotambudza dzekuenderera mberi.
3 Mazano Okukubatsira Iwe Kuenderera Mberi Netsitsi
Saka unokudziridza sei tsitsi, unobatanidza, uye unobatsira ruvara rwakazaruka? Heano mazano mashomanana achakubatsira kubudirira kubudirira mune hupfumi.
- Dhidzai mafungiro enyu: Tevera uye tibatane nevanhu vane maonero akasiyana neako. Chimwe chidzidzo chevatungamiri vepamusoro vatungamiri vekugarisana nevamwe vakaratidza hutano hwakasiyana-siyana hwekubatana kune vezera ravo risina kubudirira. Dzivisa kukurira zvaunotenda, pane kudaro, kudzidza zvose zvaunogona pamusoro pokuti vamwe vanofunga, vanonzwa, uye vanoita nenzira yavanoita.
- Ivai nhengo yekubatanidza: tsvaka nzira dzekuunza vanhu pamwechete. Tsvaga vanhu vamunoziva vanogona kuwedzera kukosha kune zvido zvaunoziva. Zvadaro ita mapeji.
- Ita kuti iwe usasununguka: Ita unzwira urombo nekutsvaka kutanga kuti unzwisise pfungwa yeumwe munhu usati waita iwe pachako. Simbisa uye kuvimbisa vanhu nekucherechedza zvavanoita zvakanaka panzvimbo yezvavari kuita zvisakarurama. Ratidza manzwiro ako, zvinangwa, uye magendas saka vanhu vanoziva kuti hausi kuvanda chinhu uye ivo vari kuwana iwe pachako.
The Bottom Line
Matanho ekare ekubudirira kwebasa aimbova nheyo-yakatevedzana, zvichiratidza kuti kurwisana nevamwe kuti vaende mberi kwakanaka. Kwete. Mukubatana kwehupfumi, kushungurudza nevamwe kuvaka uye kukura kuwirirana ndiyo muto wakavanzika wekubudirira. Tsitsi ndicho chinhu chinokosha.
Dhiyabhorosi Nate Regier ndiye mutevedzeri wemubatanidzwa uye mukuru mukuru mukuru weElement Element, wepasi rose rezano rinonyanya kugadziriswa pakuvaka tsika dzekunzwa tsitsi. Mumwe aimboita unyanzvi hwepfungwa, Regier nyanzvi mune zvemagariro-manzwiro ekufunga uye hutungamiri, kurwisana kwakanaka, hutano-humwe hutano hwemweya, neuropsychology, boka rekushandura, kutaurirana nevamwe uye hutungamiri hwekutungamira, kuongorora kwepamusoro uye kudzidzisa, kusimbwa kwehutano, sangano reboka uye shanduko yekushandura . Mutungamiri wepasi rose, iye akabudiswa neLeading Out of Drama master trainer, Process Communication Model® kudzidzisa mazano uye mutungamiri weElement Element's Outing Out of Drama® kudzidzisa nekudzidzisa. Nate yakabudisa mabhuku maviri: Beyond Drama uye basa rake rekupedzisira, Kurwisana Pasina Matambudziko.