Mazano Okunzwisisa Kutaura Kwevanhu Vasingatauri

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Pane here pane kusava nechokwadi mupfungwa dzako maererano nemanzwiro evandaishanda navo pavanosvika kubasa? Kushamwaridzana kwekutaura ndiyo imwe nzira yakasimba yekukurukurirana. Kuwedzera pane izwi kana mazwi, kushamwaridzana kwemashoko kunokurudzira iwe kune izvo zviri pane mumwe munhu mupfungwa. Vanyori vanonyanya kutaura vanonzwisisa simba remanzwiro nemafungiro akaiswa pachena pasina.

Kushamwaridzana kwemashoko kunotarisana nekutarisa chiso kumutauro wemutauro.

Zviratidzo, zviratidzo, uye kushandiswa kwenzvimbo zvakakoshawo mukushamwaridzana kwemashoko. Kusiyana kwetsika mumutauro wemuviri, kutarisa kwiso, kushandiswa kwemhepo, uye kunyanya, zviratidzo, zvakakura uye zvakasununguka zvakanyanya kududzirwa zvisina kufanira.

Kuti uwedzere ruzivo rwako mukududzira pasina kutaura kwevanhu, tora izvi zvisingatauri kutaurirana zvinyorwa dzemibvunzo mibvunzo kubva kuYunivhesiti yeKalifornia kuSanta Cruz. Nhengo imwe neimwe inobatana inotungamirira mibvunzo yemibvunzo yemibvunzo uye tsanangudzo.

Chimwe chezvinhu zvinonakidza-asi zvakasuruvarisa-zvisingaverengeki zvisiri izvo zvandakamboona zvakamboitika muhofisi yevanyori pachikoro chikuru. Mumwe mudzidzi wepachikoro akaedza kutaurira dambudziko rake kumurume akare, muchena. Akaronga nguva dzose achisimudza maoko ake kuti apedze kutaura kwake.

Akaedza kuderedza kure pakati pake neyevayunivhesiti avo vakaramba vachitsigira kuti varambe vachida kufara kwemafaro.

Pakupera kwekukurukurirana, mudzidzi uyu akanga achidzingirira kureba kwepamusoro wepamusoro asi achiri kubata nemaoko ake nehasha. Muranda uyu akandiudza gare gare kuti akanga achitya nemudzidzi uyo aingoedza kumuudza kuti akanga atobhadhara chikwereti chaakanga achangobva kugamuchira kubva yunivhesiti.

Chimwe chidzidzo paUCLA chakaratidza kuti kusvika kusvika kuzana muzana zvekutaurirana kwakagadziriswa kunotsanangurwa nemashoko asingatauri. Chimwe chidzidzo chakaratidza kuti kukanganisa kwebasa kwakagadzirirwa 7 muzana nemashoko akashandiswa, 38 muzana nezwi izwi, uye 55 muzana nemusina kutaura.

Kana iwe uchida kuvhiringidza manzwiro ako kana kupindura kwako pakarepo kune ruzivo, nyatsoteerera maitiro ako asingaiti. Iwe unogona kunge uine inzwi rako nemashoko ari pasi pekutonga, asi mutauro wako wenyama unosanganisira maziso mashoma zvikuru uye kufamba kwako kunogona kupa pfungwa dzako nemanzwiro ako kure. Kunyanya kumudzidzi ane unyanzvi wezvisizvo zvemashoko, vazhinji vedu tiri mabhuku akazaruka zvechokwadi.

Hazvina mhosva kuti iwe unoshanda sei, kuvandudza unyanzvi hwako mukududzira pasina kutaura kunowedzera kukwanisa kwako kugovana chinangwa nemumwe munhu. Tsanangudzo yangu ine dudziro yekukurukurirana. Kururamisa tsanangudzo yekusabvumirana kukurukurirana kuchawedzera zvakadzama kumunokwanisa kwako kutaura.

Mazano Okunzwisisa Kutaura Kwevanhu Vasingatauri

• Ziva kuti vanhu vanotaurirana pane zvakawanda. Tarisa chiso chavo chemaziso, kutarisa kwemaziso , chimiro, ruoko uye tsoka kufamba, kufamba kwemuviri nekuisa, nekuonekwa uye chikamu sezvavanenge vachienda kwauri. Chiito chega chega chirikutaurirana chimwe chinhu kana iwe ukateerera nemeso ako. Iva akajairika kuona kutaurirana kusinganzwisisiki uye kukwanisa kwako kuverenga kusingarevi kutaurirana kuchakura nekuita.

• Kana mazwi evanhu achitaura chimwe chinhu uye kusataura kwavo kusingarevi kunotaura mumwe, iwe unofarira kuteerera vanhu vasinganzwisisiki-uye izvi zvinowanzotora chisarudzo chakarurama.
• Chengetedza vashandi vekushanda zvichienderana nekusataurirana kwavo. Iwe unogona kuverenga zvakawanda kubva kunekuti munhu anenge aita basa anogara sei muimba yekuchengetedza. Kukurukurirana kusina kubvunzurudzwa panguva yekubvunzurudzwa kunofanirawo kujekesa unyanzvi hwevadzidzi, simba, utera, uye zvinokunetsa iwe.
• Probe musinganzwisisiki panguva yekutsvaga kana imwe mamiriro ezvinhu maunoda zvinyorwa uye zvinotendwa zvinotaurwa. Zvakare, avo vasingatauri vanogona kuzarura zvinopfuura mazwi anotaurwa nemunhu.
• Paunotungamirira musangano kana kutaura neboka, cherechedza kuti izvo zvisiri izvo zvinogona kukuudza:
  - kana iwe wataura kwenguva yakakwana,
  - kana mumwe munhu achida kutaura, uye
  - mafungiro evanhu vazhinji uye zvavanoita pamashoko enyu.
  Teerera kwavari uye iwe uchava mutungamiri ari nani uye mukurukuri.

Kunzwisisa kusabvumirana kukurukurirana kunovandudza nekuita. Nhanho yekutanga mukuita ndeyekuziva simba rekusabvumirana kukurukurirana. Ndine chokwadi kuti iwe wakanga uine manzwiro ekuti izvo munhu zvaakakuudza zvaisareva. Teerera kumatope ako.

Pamwe nehupenyu hwehupenyu hwako, kudzidziswa, zvitendero uye zvose zvinoshandura kare, ndeye nyanzvi yako yomukati yekutaurirana pasina.