Icho Chikwereti, Mutemo, uye Chakanaka Chevashandi veMabasa kuti vakukurudzire mushandi mutsva here?
"Ndave ndakashanda kune imwe nzvimbo isingabatsiri pabasa gore rimwe chete." Basa rekuendesa mberi, pamwe chete nemabasa ekutsvaga basa rimwechete basa kubvira panguva iyoyo, rakataura kuti BS chidi yaidiwa. Ndine BS degree.
"Sezvo ndakanga ndabhadharwa, mumwe munhu ainge asina BS digiri akabhadhara musoro webasa rimwechete . Uyu munhu ane chidimbu cheAA uye ave ane sangano anenge mwedzi mina.
"Munhu uyu ane zvishoma zvedzidzo, ruzivo, uye zvidzidzo kune ini nevamwe vashandi vari mubazi, zvisinei, munhu uyu achangokurudzirwa kuva mutariri wepamusoro.Ipapo pakanga pasina chiziviso chekuti mutariri wepamusoro akanga achizarura uye, sezviri pachena, hapana vamwe vashandi vaive inofungidzirwa.
"Mutevedzeri uyo akabata nzvimbo iyi isati yasvika yakasimudzirwa kune imwe nzvimbo ichangobva kusikwa.Ndinoziva kuti mushandirwi haafaniri kutumira nzvimbo yekuzarura , asi vanogona here kubhadhara mutemo uye kukurudzira mumwe munhu asina kukodzera kupfuura vamwe vashandi? Ngationei kuti vamwe vashandi havakwanisi kuita zvinhu zvisina kunaka. "
Mhinduro:
Mhinduro yekukurumidza: Hungu. Makambani anogona kubhadhara ani zvake waanoda uye anokurudzira nenzira imwecheteyo. Kunze kweizvi kunze kweizvi kunosanganisira kubhadhara mvumo (haugoni kukora chiremba chiremba asiri chiremba ane chiremba.) Kana kana iwe une zvibvumirano zvakananga, sekubatana-kwakamiririrwa mamiriro ezvinhu. Asi, kuputsa mibvunzo yako yese inofanira kupa mhinduro dzaunoda.
Kutanga, iwe wati kufunga kunofanirwa kuitwa kuti vamwe vashandi havana mamiriro ezvinhu asina kunaka, uye izvi hazvina kunaka. Asi, iwe unofanirwa kumbomira kweminiti uye ufungidzira kuti avo vanoita chisarudzo pahofisi yako ndivo vanongwarira avo vanoda kuwana basa racho uye vatengi vakashanda zvakanaka. Nokudaro, nemafungiro awa maviri mupfungwa.
Heano mibvunzo yako uye mhinduro.
Sei vakashandira munhu asina kukodzera? Vashandi nevashandi vose vane chiratidzo chisingazivikanwi chekuti shoko rinorevei rinoreva. Kazhinji inongorongedzero yemabasa iyo inosanganisira diki dzinodiwa kana zviiti. Asi sezvo iwe wataura kuti basa iri rinoda BS degree, uye kwete, taura BS mune makemikari engineering, zvinonyanya kukosha kuti hakuna humwe unyanzvi hunodiwa uye hunogona kuzviratidzira nechidimbu.
Kakawanda vanhu vanoshandisa dhidii inodikanwa sevamiririri vese maitiro, zvakadai sekuratidzira kukura kwekunamatira kune basa kana nzira, kuva nekwanisi yekunyora uye kunzwisisa kwekuita tsvakurudzo. Kana iyo yunivhesiti yenharaunda yako ichikupa digiti, mubhadhari anogona kutarisa izvo zvinhu pane zvinoda kuverengwa.
Kana iwe usina dhigirii, inofanirwa kuchera zvishoma kuti uone kana iwe unogona kuita zvinhu izvozvo. Saka zvinenge zvisingabviri kuti mubhadharo mutsva uine unyanzvi uhwo humwe chidimbu unogona kuisa tampu yebhabhosi uye hauna ureji.
Sei pakanga pasina chiziviso chakapiwa chinzvimbo chakazaruka? Sezvawakataura, hapana vamwe vanhu vaifungidzirwa nekuda kwebasa iri, saka sei kutumira? Kana uyo mutariri wemukana ainge atoziva kuti aida ani mubasa racho, ingadai iri kuparadza nguva yevanhu vose kuisa basa, kuenda kuburikidza nekushanda, uye kubvunzurudza vanhu vasina kumbova nebasa pabasa.
Kana iwe uri kubvunza kubva kunze , iwe haungafari here kuti iwe waizotora zuva kubvisa basa (kana iwe usina basa, uwane tariro yako uye wakabhadharwa mubatsiri) kuitira kuti ugone kubvunzurudza mubasa rausina kuwana yekuwana?
Sei uchikurudzira munhu ane ruzivo rudiki? Ichokwadi kuti izvi zvinogona kunge zvakanyatsofamba. Kakawanda, vashandi vanofunga kuendeswa kune zvigaro zvepamusoro vanofanira kuva mubairo webasa rakaitwa zvakanaka. Pane zvakawanda zvine musoro shure kwe-shure kwezvose, haudi kuti mushandi anotarisira nzvimbo yavasingazivi nezvazvo.
Asi kutarisira vanhu kwakanyanya, kwakasiyana chaizvo pane kuita basa. Makambani akachenjera anozviziva uye anoisa vanhu vane unyanzvi hwepamusoro uye tarenda mukutarisira mabasa pane kungosimudzira munhu anonyanya kuita basa. Zvinonyatsoita kuti munhu uyu akashandiswa zvakakwana nokuti aive nekodzero yekugadzirisa uye pamwe nekuziva pamusoro pekusaziva iwe.
Mamiriro ezvinhu aya akachenjera here? Hungu uye kwete. Dambudziko harisi pakushandira mushandi ane zvikodzero zvakasiyana kune vamwe vanhu vari muDhipatimendi-ndizvo zvakaita vashandi varipo. Zvinonyanya kuora mwoyo pawakashanda zvakaoma, uye munhu akavepo kwemwedzi mina anosimudzirwa.
Nokuda kweizvi (uye zvimwe) zvikonzero, makambani anowanzova nenguva shoma yenguva yaunofanira kushanda munzvimbo iyo usati wagona kukurudzirwa kana kutumirwa -muzviitiko zvakawanda mwedzi mitanhatu.
Sangano rako raizove rakachenjera kuhaya munhu uyu mutsva mubasa rokutarisira panzvimbo pokutanga kushandira uye nekusimudzira. Zvadaro aigona kunge akaudzwa sa "Jane, uyo ane unyanzvi hwakanaka hwekugadzirisa, uye isu tinofara chaizvo kumuwana" pane "Jane, wako mushandi mushandi-iye zvino ari mukuru wako."
Unofanira kuitei? Zvakanaka, kana iwe uchifara mubasa rako, ramba uchishanda. Sotsigira mutariri wako mutsva mubasa rake idzva. Yeuka, haana kusarudza kuzviisa panzvimbo iyoyo, saka usamupomera mhosva. Kana iwe uchida chaizvo kutamira musangano rako, inguva yekubvunza zvaunoda kushanda.
Zvinokurudzirwa kuti uende kumunhu wako wekutanga (kwete iye achangobva kukurudzirwa) uye uti, "Ndiri kufarira chaizvo kuenda kune basa rekutungamirira. Unogona here kundibatsira kuti ndizive unyanzvi hupi hwandinofanira kushanda kuti ndiende ikoko? "
Cherechedza, iwe hausi kuti, "Sei wakasimudzira Jane? Ndave ndiri pano makore matatu uye maongororo angu anoshamisa . Haana kunyange nedhigirii. "Tarisa pane unyanzvi hwako pachako. Iwe unogona kuziva kuti unonyatsoda kudzidza huri nani hutano hwekukurukura kana kuti hutano hwako hwehutano hunoda kusimbiswa. Mutungamiriri wako angashamisika kuti iwe unoda kuenda. Yeuka, vatariri havasi vaverengi vefungwa-uye vanowanzotora mhedziso iyo inhema.
Uye, zvakadini kana boka rako reutungamiri risina musoro? Zvinosuruvarisa, izvi zvinogonawo zvakare. Mutungamiri wenyu mutsva anogona kunge ari muzukuru mukuru webasa, kana kuti angave ari kune cheerleading squad kuchikoro chesekondari, kana hutungamiri hwepamusoro hunogona kungoita hutano husina kunaka. Asi kana chimwe chezvinhu izvozvo chiri chechokwadi, iwe unogona kuona hutungamiri hwakaipa munzvimbo dzose dzebhizimisi, kwete chete mubhadharo mutsva uyu.
Pasinei, zvakakosha kuti nguva dzose uende kumabhizimisi nyaya kubva pane pfungwa yokuti munhu ari kuita chisarudzo ari kuita zvavanofunga kuti zvakanakisisa. Tora mikana yekutsvaga zvikonzero zvakanaka usati wanyunyuta.