Kushungurudzwa neMushandirwi Anoshanda
Kushungurudzirwa neNyaya
"Anenge gore rakapfuura, dhipatimendi randakashanda mairi rakabviswa.
Vashomanana vedu vakasara vakagoverwa kune rimwe divi. Mutevedzeri wangu ane chinyorwa chakakwirira asi akazviwana aine vashandi vashoma kuti avanzwisise. Nokudaro, akatya kuwana zvirongwa mune mamwe madhipatimendi kuti apinde. Rimwe dhipatimendi rakamupa mushandi anozivikanwa se'chipo 'nokuti madhipatimendi anofara kuvapa. Mutariri wangu aiziva mukurumbira wakaipa webasa raakange achiwana - nokuti yakanga yawana makore anopfuura makumi matatu emakore ekushaya kukwana uye inopinda chechi imwechete - uye yaida kushamwaridzana nekutsvaga kwayo. Nokudaro, akaisa chipo ichi kwandiri.
"Gore rakapera, uyu ari pasi akarega kuita chero basa." Pakutanga, akati aive akabatwa nevatungamiriri vakaipa kwemakore makumi matatu nemaviri emabasa ake, akazoti ndiye akabatwa nemutariri wekupedzisira. Akarangana nekumurwisa kwake.Akurumidza, akashandura kurwisa kwake kwandiri.Akaramba kuita basa rake, nokuti, akati, haana kumbofanira, kana handina kumubvunza zvinyararire, kana kuti haana kunzwisisa chandinokumbira, kana kuti mutariri wekare akashanda basa rake nokuda kwake, kana kuti raiva 'pamusoro pemari yebhadharo rake .' Mutariri wangu akazivisa kuti kusangana kwose kwaingova kukakavadzana kwemunhu mumwe chete neni.
"Kwaari kunyanya kushungurudzika , munhu akaderera aizozviputira nemafuta anokanganisa uye achida uye akamira pamusoro pangu pandakanga ndakagara mu cubicle yangu. Aizongotaura neni chete apo achidya nemuromo wake akazaruka uye zvokudya zvikabuda uye zvichiita mheremhere inobva kwaari nokusingaperi Mabasa ezvemuviri, pamwe chete, aizonyengeterera zvikuru, achibudisa evangelical radio pamusoro pekutendeuka nekuita hurukuro huru yevanhu pamusoro pevanhu vanoenda kugehena nenzira yavakaita nayo.
Apo vamwe vanhu vakandishanyira kuti vawane zvido zvebasa, aizobvisa shangu dzake ndokushambidza tsoka dzake nemafuta anonyangadza paaiedza kujoina hurukuro yedu.
"Pakupedzisira, mushure mekukurukurirana kwekukakavara kwandakazvitsanangurira maitiro akawanda aisingaiti-ane utsinye, anokanganisa, pamwe nekuzvidzivirira kwake kubvuma, ndakaramba kumutarisa kana kutaura naye.Ndakamuudza kuti arege kuparadza nguva nekurwisa kwake ini ndoita basa rake.Akandibvunza kuti, 'Ndiani akakukuvadza zvakanyanya kuti iwe unondibata saizvozvi?' Ndakamuudza kuti handina kuisa mari mukati mangu kana kuti basa rangu kuti ndive pedyo nemumwe munhu akaita saiye uye kuti ndiite basa rake Akamudzora kuti atize uye ini ndikati, 'Usabvunza pfungwa dzangu dzakadzika uye undiregere kana iwe uchigona 'tibvuma kuti iwe uri dambudziko.' Vashandi varo vakanzwa mashoko angu nekutaura kwatsamwa uye vakapisa pamubatanidzwa.
"Ndakanyunyuta kumubati wangu uyo akasika mamiriro ose aya, ndakanyora maitiro akawanda asingakanganisi, maitiro asina maturo, uye basa risingagamuchiri, asi mutariri wangu akaidza zvinyunyuta zvangu sezvo ndine munhu akaoma uye akandipa zano rokutenga mweya yekuchenesa. kuti hapana mumwe munhu akanyunyuta pamusoro pekunhuhwira kwepasi, ruzha uye kurasa mapepa nemarara kumativi akakomberedzwa asina chinhu, kunyange zvazvo mushandi ane OCD uye kutya kwezvirwere zvakashanda makubhi maviri kubva kure.
Akataura kuti taifanira kugadzirisa kusawirirana kwedu pakati pedu, asi wakaramba kudzorerazve pasi kana kutsigira chikumbiro changu kuti aite zvinomupomerwa.
"Pamwe dzimwe nguva, uyu pasi aizondikumbira kuti ndigare shure kumisangano yevashandi (kunyange zvazvo akandiudza) kuti anyore uye anonditsiura kumusoro wedu wepakati.Akataura kuti ndakamuitira zvisina kunaka nokuti ndakanga ndisisakwanise kutaura naye pasina kuchema uye Akatsamwa Akandipomera kazhinji kuti ndiri munhu anoshungurudzika, kunze kwekuvapo kwake.Ndakazvidzivirira nokushingaira, ndakaratidza kusakundikana kwake kukuru kuita uye ndakakumbira kuti aende kubva pasi pangu.Sekushanda naye akatozvipira kuti atarisire pasi akashanda naye pakutanga (uye akanyevera zvakasimba mutariri wedu kuti arege kumuwana) uye akamuziva kuti kusaziva kwakange kwakakodzera.
Ichokwadi, akanzwisisa kuti sei mutungamiri aiwanzogoverwa kumakamuri ari oga ari kure nemapoka ose aakagoverwa.
"Pamusoro pegore, ndakatambura mupfungwa uye mumuviri.Ndakawana makirogiramu makumi mana kubva pakumanikidzwa kwekugara mukunhuwa uye kusvibiswa uye kushanda nechinzvimbo chekufa chakachengetedzwa nehurumende. Ndakachema kubasa, ndakachema mutariri (anoseka uye anonditaurira kuti kuwedzera kwandinorema ndeyangu mhosva), uye ndakapedza usiku ndakatsamwa nokuti ndinomanikidzwa kushanda nguva pfupi kuti ndidzokere basa remuzinda nokuti mukuru wangu anondipa mhosva.
"Mutungamiri anoramba achityisidzira kuti anondisimudzira pamhosva uye anondipomera kuti ndakanga ndisingadikanwi (kunyange zvazvo ini ndakashanda zvakanaka) apo ini ndichimubvunza mibvunzo inokosha pamusoro pebasa rake rakanyorwa rakanyorwa.Ipapo pandinozivisa kushanyira uku kumukuru wangu, mutungamiriri anotyisidzira kuti ndisimbise zvose pasi pangu neni.
"Saka, ndakarayira pasi kuti anongotaura neni kuburikidza ne-e-mail kuitira kuti azvidzivirire pakushungurudzwa kwaanondipomera uye kuitira kuti ndive nemagwaro ekushandisa kwake kushungurudzwa neni.Ndinoshandisa aya e-mail apo iye gare gare anoramba achitaura zvisinganzwisisiki zvisinganzwisisiki zvaanofunga mukuramba kwake kuita basa rake.Nokuti ndakati aifanira kunditumira e-mail chete, anonditsamwisa pachena kuti ndinzwe kutsamwa ndokubva ndati kune mumwe munhu, "Vanhu vose vainzwa kuti anotaura sei kwandiri?"
"Pamusoro pegore rino, akasimudzira chete kumubati wangu kuti achabvisa basa rekuti 'zuva rimwe nerimwe iye zvino.' Anotaura izvi mushure mokunge aine hutano hwakanyanya neni pashure pokunge ndanyora kubata kwake kwemazuva kana kusabvumirana kana kusakwanisa. Mhiko dzake dzenhema dzinobudirira kumutengesa kwemwedzi mitatu yekudzoka, nokuti mutariri wangu anondiudza kuti achange asiya zuva rose iye zvino haafaniri kuisa mapepa ake ekurega basa, saka, ndinoramba ndichida kuti aparadze kana kuti aende. "