Sei Kukurudzira Vanhu Isingashandi ... Uye Chii
Mubhuku rake, Sei Kukurudzira Vanhu Kusingashandi ... Uye, Chii , Susan Fowler anokurukura kuti zvinopesana sei nevashandi kuedza kukurudzira vashandi. Anoshandisa zviwanikwa zvepfungwa kuti aise muenzaniso wakaenzaniswa uye nzira yekuita ichabatsira vatungamiri kutungamirira vanhu vavo kumhando dzekukurudzira kwete kungowedzera kubudirira uye kubatanidzwa asi kunovapa chinangwa chikuru chechinangwa.
Susan ane makore makumi matatu ezvakaitika semutsvakurudzi, muongorori, uye mudzidzisi munyika dzinopfuura makumi matatu pasi pose mumunda weutungamiri. Sezvo ari nyanzvi mumunda wekugonesa pachake, ndiye mutungamiri wekutungamirira weKen Blanchard Company's Optimal Motivation mutsara wemiti, pamwe neEmotional Self Leadership, avo vanogona-kudzidza-kudzidzira-hutungamiri hwehutungamiri uye hurongwa hwekupa simba.
Munyaya iyi, Susan anopa mhinduro dzemibvunzo shoma pamusoro pekukurudzira vashandi, kunyanya avo vari mumutemo.
1. Sei zvichikurudzira vanhu kusashanda? Chii chinonyanya kutamba?
Iwe haugoni kukurudzira vanhu nokuti vatove vakakurudzirwa - pamwe zvichida kwete nenzira yaunoda kuti vave, kana kwete nenzira yakanakisisa. Kukurudzira hakusi kuwanda kwechinhu chimwe chevanhu vane kana vasina. Vanhu vanogara vachikurudzirwa, saka ndiyo CHINHU chezvavanokurudzira zvinokosha. Panzvimbo pokuisa pfungwa pa "kukurudzira" vanhu, tinoda kufunga nezvekuvabatsira kuchinja kunaka kwezvavanoda-uye naizvozvo, zvavanowana.
Zvechokwadi, kukurudzirwa chinhu chinoitika mukati, saka ndiko ndiko kushanduka kunofanira kuitika; kwete nemitemo yekunze yakadai sekukurudzira, zvikomborero zvinooneka, kana zvipo zvisingaoneki sechiremera kana chimiro (karoti) kana kukamanikidzwa, kukakavara, kutyisidzira, kushaya mhosva, kunyadziswa, kana kuzvidemba (tsitsi).
2. Somutungamiri, unoda here kutungamirira vanhu zvakasiyana-siyana zvichibva kune mabasa akasiyana nemazera?
Somutungamiri, iwe nguva dzose unofanirwa kuva nehanya nemunhu mumwe nomumwe zvakadai sehutano hwemunhu pane chimwe chinangwa kana basa (semutungamiri wemamiriro ezvinhu, iwe hauzi kupa mumwe munhu ave achiita basa kwemakore mashanu kutungamirirwa kwakafanana uye kutsigira semumwe munhu mutsva kune basa)
Iwe unofanirwawo kuziva nezvemunhu weMustivational Outlook (MO) pane chinangwa kuburikidza neKukurudzira Outlook Conversation, munhu anotengesa kutengesa rwendo kana kuti # 1 (kunze kweM MO) haangakwanisi kuchengetedza simba rakanaka, hutano, kana pfungwa yehupenyu hwakanaka sevanhu vanotengesa vanotengesa zvichienderana nemitemo yavo yebasa nekugadzirisa matambudziko, pfungwa yechinangwa nekuda kwekutenda mune zvakanaka zvakagadziriswa kana basa rinopa, kana nekuda kwekuda kutengesa. Izvi zvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana zvekutengesa uye mutungamiri we savvo anogona kubatsira mumwe munhu wekutengesa anoziva MO wavo uye zvimwe kuchinja kana kuchengetedza maonero akanaka.
Pakupedzisira, iwe unofanirwa kuenzaniswa nechizvarwa chinowanzo "chigadziriswa" zvingave zviri pasi pechikonzero chemunhu chekuita zvavari kuita nekubatsira munhu - pasinei nezvizvarwa - anoshandisa kubva "zvakagadzirwa" zvakasarudzwa, zvakakosha , anokoshesa, uye akaita nguva. Boka roga roga rakagadzira tsika; munhu wose ane sarudzo yekurarama nemaitiro asina kuongorora uye asina kuongororwa, kana kukudziridza mararamiro avo pachavo nekuzvienzanisa nazvo kune dzimwe nzira uye kuita sarudzo. Izvi zvinokosha nekuti kana munhu achikwanisa kubatanidza basa ravo kuhutano hwakanaka, ivo vanowanzova nehutano hwakanaka MO.
3. Ndeipi nzira inofanira kushandiswa nevanhu kubatsira vashandi kana ivo pachavo kubudirira mune bhizinesi?
Ndinoda kufunga kuti bhuku rangu rose nderimwe nzira inobatsira vatungamiri uye avo vanotungamirira kubudirira. Izvo zvinoenderana nokuti unotsanangura sei kubudirira. Kana iwe uchida kuwana husimba hwakasimba, hutano, uye pfungwa yehupenyu hunoita kuti utano hwepfungwa nehuviri huvepo, humwe hunyanya uye hutsva, uye huwandu huri nani, somuenzaniso, ipapo ungada kudzidza ruzivo rwekukurudzira: nyora wako MO chaiyo, enda kune imwe MO, uye fungisisa pamusoro peMo wako kuti uone musiyano muhupenyu hwako hunoita kuti iwe uhude huve huripo.
Somutungamiri, unoda kuumba nzvimbo yebasa zvinowanzoita kuti vanhu vave nehutano hwakanaka MO - apo maitiro avo epfungwa nezvekuzvidzivirira, hukama hwavo, uye unyanzvi zviri kugutsikana.
4. Attorneys uye nheyo yemutemo ndeye mhuka pachayo. Ndeipi nzira dzakanakisisa kana maitiro e "kukurudzira" magweta uye avo vari mumunda?
Kubva pane zvakaitika kwandiri, nheyo yepamutemo yakagadzirirwa kune chinangwa chekunze: maawa mangani iwe ungakwanise kubhadharwa, ungawana sei hofisi yekona, iwe ungaita sei mukomana? Inogadzirisawo varairi (uye kunyanya vanhu vavo vanovatsigira) pamwe nemirairo yakatarwa - kutya kwekukundikana, kuodza mwoyo, kana kusasangana nemitarisiro. Iwe haugone "kusimbisa" mareji wenyika: ivo vakatotanga kutungamirirwa. Mubvunzo ndewokuti nei vachiita mutemo? Kana zvikonzero zvezvikonzero zvisingabatsiri (zvikomborero zvinooneka kana zvisingaoneki, kuti vafadze vamwe, kuti varege kuvhiringidza nhengo dzemhuri dzine tarisiro yakakwirira, simba, nezvimwewo), havangopedzi mabasa avo chete, asi vanozvidzivirira kune avo vanofananidzirira- -kuita zviduku zvishoma, kuita zvisarudzo zvisina kunaka (zvikurukuru kana zvichiuya pakubhadhara!), kurapa rubatsiro rwavo vanhu zvakaipa, kutambura kwepfungwa nehutano nenyaya, nezvimwewo.
Gweta rega roga rinofanira kuzvibvunza pacharo: Sei ndichiita zvandiri kuita?
Kana kazhinji vanogona kufunga nezvekwereti, nyaya, kana basa kuti rive nemafungiro akanaka, chinangwa chakanaka, kana pfungwa yekufara inobva pakupa kune chimwe chinhu chakakura kudarika ivo pachavo kana kune hurumende yezvose, kunyanya "kubudirira." Kunyanya kupfuura nguva.
Chikonzero chetsika chakaita sechishanda munguva yakapfuura, asi chaizvoizvo? Zvichida munda unoda kutora umwe kutarisa zvavanoreva ne "wakashanda." Unogona here kutaura kuti maitiro akashandiswa kukurudzira vanhu akakonzera kubudirira zvakanaka? Kana zvisingaiti, ipapo kutsvaga kwavo kwenguva pfupi mutengo wavari kubhadhara kwenguva refu "kubudirira."
5. Sei wakanyora bhuku iri? Chii chaunotarisira kuchinja nebhuku rako?
Ndakanyora bhuku kuti ndigoverane nesayenzi idzva inotarisana nehutano hwechinangwa chemunhu panzvimbo yehutano hwekukurudzira. Ndinotarisira kuva chinhu chinoita kuti vanhu vazive uye vanopa ruzivo uye tsika yekugadzirisa kushanduka kubva kune chimwe chiitiko chinokurudzira chinokurudzira kuti zvive zvakanaka pane zvinoitika chero nguva, chero pavanosarudza - uye unyanzvi hwekubatsira vamwe kuita zvakafanana. Ndinofunga kuti vanhu vari kushuva chimwe chinhu chiri kushanda uye nokuti havana kunzwisisa chaicho chechokwadi chevanhu chinokurudzira, chakanzi mari, simba, uye nzvimbo. Ndinofunga vatungamiri vanoda zvikwereti uye nekuti havana kunzwisisa kuti kuisa shanduro itsva yekurudziro kushanda, kutsvaga migumisiro nekumanikidzwa, kukanganisa, uye mhosva. Pane nzira iri nani, uye ndinovimba kuti bhuku rangu haringorivhenekeri vanhu kune dzimwe nzira, asi vanovadzidzisa nzira itsva yekuenda kushanda zuva rimwe nerimwe.