Iwe Unogona Kudzidza nekusimbisa Unyanzvi Hwako hweMagariro Ekushandisa paKushanda
Ini ndiri weavo vanogona kudzidzwa uye kuwedzera klabhu nokuti ndakaona vanhu vakawanda vakawedzera huchenjeri hwavo hwepfungwa pavanoisa pfungwa dzavo kune iyo.
Kutaura zvazviri, mukudzidzisa uye kubvunza nemasangano, imwe nzvimbo yekutarisa kwave kuri kubatsira vatungamiri kuti vawedzere kukura kwehuchenjeri hwavo. Iyi ndiyo inonyanya kukosha dichotomy, yakataurwa naKendra Cherry, mukutsanangurwa kwake kwekunzwisisa kwepfungwa uye nhoroondo yayo.
Vatungamiri uye Emotional Intelligence
Wati wamboziva mutungamiri uyo akanga asina kunyatsogadzirisa pfungwa (EI)? Uyu mutungamiri ane dambudziko kunzwisisa manzwiro anonzwiwa mumashoko ose nevashandi.
Nehuwandu hwezvinoreva shoko iro vashandi vanotaurirana kuburikidza neshoko risina maturo , kuratidza chiso, uye inzwi rezwi, mutungamiriri uyu ane dambudziko rakaipa. Achave akanetseka kuwana mharidzo yose iyo mushandi ari kuedza kutaura.
Mumwe maneja ane hutachiwana hweEI hutsika haabatsiri pakunzwisisa uye kuratidza manzwiro ake. Izvi zvinosanganisira kuziva kuti iye ane hupenyu huri pasi peEI.
Chinhu chinowanzoitika ndechekuti anonyatsosununguka kune mhinduro , asi kuti mutauriri wacho haana kururama panyaya iyi.
Asi, dambudziko guru nemutungamiri ane EI shoma ndiye mutisi wekusakwanisa kuziva uye kunzwisisa zvinokonzerwa nezviito zvake nemashoko kune vashandi pamwe naye kubasa.
Chinetso chechipiri chikuru chemuchina mukuru weEI ndechokuti mushandi wekushanda naye kana kuti nhengo yehutano iyo yakanyatsogadzirisa huchenjeri hwepfungwa inogona kutamba mutoro weEI wakaderera sevarinini yakagadzirirwa zvakanaka - kuti ive nani, uye yakaipa.
Emotional Intelligence in Action
Ko vatungamiri vanogona kuita chero chii pamusoro peizvi? Uchenjeri hwepfungwa hunogona kudzidzwa uye kusimbiswa, asi kana chete mushandi anonzwisisa kuti kuchenjera kwepfungwa kunowanikwa uye kunobatsira panzvimbo yebasa.
Cherry anotaura kuti Peter Salovey naJohn D. Mayer, vanotungamira vatsvakurudzi vekunzwisisa mupfungwa, vanocherechedza zvinhu zvina zvekunzwisisa mupfungwa: "maonero emanzwiro, kukwanisa kugadzirisa kushandisa manzwiro, kukwanisa kunzwisisa manzwiro uye kukwanisa kudzora manzwiro."
Mienzaniso yenyanzvi iyo munhu ane njere dzepfungwa angaratidza mune izvi zvinosanganisira:
- kuziva uye kukwanisa kuverenga mutauro uye zvimwe zvisiri izvo zvekukurukurirana zvinosanganisira maziso,
- kukwanisa kuteerera zvakanyatsonaka kuti anogona kunzwa mazwi asingatauri nekuteerera inzwi rezwi, kufungidzira, kumira, nezvimwewo,
- kukwanisa kudzora nekubata kushungurudzika, kutsamwa, kusuwa, mufaro, kusuruvara, uye mamwe manzwiro,
- kuzive uye kugadzirisa pamagumisiro ayo mazwi ake nezviito zvaanoita kune vashandi pamwe navo, zvisinei kuti vanozivisa mutungamiri wehuipi, kana kwete,
- kunzwisisa chinonzwika chepfungwa yekukurukurirana kubva kumunhu wevashandi uye kupindura nenzira yakajeka kune manzwiro ehutano hwekukurukurirana maererano nezvinodiwa, uye
- kunyatsotsanangura chinokonzerwa nemanzwiro anowanikwa neaishanda naye. Izvozvo zvinosuruvarisa, kuora mwoyo kunogona kuratidzira nyaya huru kumba uye pamwe nekugadziriswa kwebasa risina kugadziriswa.
Kuwedzera Emotional Intelligence
Vatariri vanogona kurondedzera nekunzwisisa kwepfungwa, kunyangwe nekuda kwezvisikwa, kuchengetedza uye / kana tsika, vanounza humwe humwe hutanho hwekunzwisisa nekuvakidzana kwehukama kumabasa avo ekushanda. Ndakatsanangura zvikamu zvakasiyana-siyana zvekubatana kweumwe munhu ane pfungwa dzakagadzikana mupfungwa.
Idzi maonero pamusoro pekusimbisa kusimbisa kwako manzwiro ezuva nezuva.
- Dzidzira kuteerera zvakadzama uye zvakanyanyisa pakutaurirana nomumwe mushandi. Panzvimbo yekudzokorora mhinduro yako apo mumwe munhu ari kutaura, fungisisa pfungwa dzako nekufungisisa pakubvunza mibvunzo kuti ujekese uye unzwisise zvinotaurwa nemunhu uyu.
- Dzokorora uye fudza zvakare zvaunofunga kuti wakanzwa munhu wacho akati kwauri. Bvunza kana chidimbu chako chiratidziro chakarurama chekukurukurirana.
- Bvunza mibvunzo kuti uone manzwiro uye manzwiro. Kumbira mushandi kuti anonzwa sei pamusoro pehuwandu hwakapiwa kwauri. Kumbira kuti marwadzo avo anzwe nezvekuti zvinhu zviri kufambira mberi sei.
Kana iwe uchinetseka kuverenga kuti mushandi ari kuita sei mumamiriro ezvinhu mupfungwa, kumbira kuti uwane. Vashandi vakawanda vanongoda chete kuzivisa pfungwa kana maneja wavo anoratidza kufarira. Iwe uchawedzera kukudziridza huchenjeri hwako hwepfungwa, zvakare, nekuteerera. - Dzidzira kuongorora mutauro wemuviri kana kuti kusataura kwemashoko . Dzoka iwe nekukurumidza kwenguva yakareba zvakakwana kuti uone kana mutauro wemutauro usingabatanidzi nemashoko akataurwa. Edza kushandura mutauro wemuviri senzira yekunyatsonzwisisa hutano hwemushandi. Nekuita, iwe uchava nani.
- Cherechedza maitiro ako pachakukurukurirana kwebasa. Iva nechokwadi chokuti iwe unogadzirisa pamatanho maviri. Iwe unofanirwa kutarisa kune chokwadi uye kumanikidziro, maitiro, hope, nezvakadaro zvinoratidzwa muhuwandu hwekutaura kana iwe uchicherechedza. Zvakare, kana iwe usingakwanisi kuwana rutivi rwechipiri, izvo zvinosanganisira manzwiro, bvunza kusvikira iwe uchinzwisisa.
- Cherechedza kana vashandi vamunotaura navo zvakanakisisa vakaita semi. Ongorora kana iwe uri kugamuchira kugoverana pamwe chete kana kungoita mafungiro ayo mushandi achanzwa uye aite nenzira imwe, zvichienderana nezvakaitika kwauri. Bvunza mibvunzo, uye ona zvipindure. Cherechedza zvakare, kuti iwe unogona kutaura kuti vashandi ava vane ruzivo rwepamusoro uye ruzivo rwakavakirwa nehutano hwako. Iva nemanzwiro apo iwe uri kutambidzwa. Mushandi ane njere dzakanyatsogadzikana mupfungwa ari kutotora maitiro ako uye anonzwisisa zvaunoda kunzwa. Uyu mushandi unyanzvi pakuvaka ukama hwehukama hwehutano hwako - hwakanaka uye hunorwara.
- Chengeta zvakanyanya kune iwe pachako manzwiro. Ongorora kuti iwe unopindura sei mumamiriro ezvinhu. Tsvaga mhinduro kubva kuvashandi vamunotarisira kuti vaite nehuwandu hwekusasarura, kusarura. Tsvaga mhinduro yakawedzerwa kubva kumudzidzisi kana mutungamiri anogona kutsanangura zvaunoita kune vamwe mumusangano, somuenzaniso.
Iwe unogona kukudziridza huchenjeri hwako hwepfungwa, asi hunotora kutsvaga kusingagumi nekuita. Tsvaga uye shandisa mhinduro kuti uite pfungwa dzako pachako dzezviito zvako uye maitiro.
Kunzwisisa kwepfungwa chiratidzo chemutungamiriri anoshanda kana mutungamiri. Vanonzwisisa uye vanofanirwa kuita zvese zviri mukati mamashoko uye zviri mukati memazwi uye zvinonzwisisika zvikamu zvinoita kuti shoko rirarame uye kufema mune sangano.
Vanokwanisa kuvaka hukama hwakasimba nevezera ravo uye vashandi vekubika. Pasina njere dzekunzwisisa, mutungamiri akaremara zvikuru mukukwanisa kwake kuona uye kugadzirisa kune chikamu chepfungwa chekutaurirana uye kubatana nevamwe vashandi. Uku kusakwanisa kuchauraya kubudirira kwavo.