Ita Unyanzvi Hwako Hwekugadzirisa Kurwisana
Kurwisana kwake kunodzivisa kunoda kumutengesa imba yake nokuti haana kurega mudzimai wake muhurukuro yaaiva nayo asi iye oga.
Yakanga ichinonoka nenguva iyo yaimuunza muhurukuro chaiye.
Kuda kwake kudzivisa kupikisa kwakasimba zvikuru zvokuti ane hukama hwakachengeteka mupfungwa dzake uye anonzwa kuti akashandisa nyaya yacho. Sezvaunogona kufungidzira, izvi hazvibatsire - kunyanya kune mumwe munhu anobatanidzwa.
Iwe une mhaka yekutora kukakavara kwepfungwa nekukakavara here?
Vanhu vazhinji havanzwisisi kana zvasvika pakurwisana . Ndinonzwisisa pfungwa yekuve nehurukuro mumusoro wako; saka iwe unogona kuronga zvaunoda kutaura uye kuti unoda sei kutaura. Dzimwe nguva kukurukurirana kwepfungwa kwakakwana kugadzirisa nyaya yacho, sezvo iwe uchiona uri kuita zvinhu zvakawanda kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma.
Ndinoziva kuti ndakapedza maawa akawanda ndiri panhovo usiku ndichikurukurirana nevanhu vandinotsamwira navo uye ndakagumbuka. Izvi hazvisi kungovhiringidza kurara kwako, mafungiro ako, uye hutano hwako, hahugadziri kunyatsogadzirisa nyaya yacho, uye inogona kukuvadza ukama hwako.
Usandibata zvisiri izvo, handitendi kuti iwe unofanirwa kutarisana nemabasa ose. Kana iwe uine hurukuro imwe chete mumusoro wako, usanetseka pamusoro payo. Kana ikadzoka uye iwe uinezve zvakare, zvichida tanga kufunga pamusoro pekutora hurukuro chaiye.
Newechitatu mumusoro wako kupikisana, unotanga kutanga kuronga kuti uchaita sei nekutarisana kwechokwadi nokuti inoratidzika sokunge iwe uchada kuita izvozvo.
Nzira Yokubata Nayo Chaicho, Nekuda Kakawirirana Kana Kurwisana
Tanga nokuzvigadzirira kuti utarise nyaya chaiye. Iva nekutaura nyaya yacho mune imwe (kana maviri), kwete-mafungiro, zvinyorwa zvinotsanangurwa .
Somuenzaniso, funga kuti unoda kusangana nemumwe wako waunoshanda naye kutora chikwereti chose nokuda kwebasa ramakaita pamwe chete pabasa. Panzvimbo pokutaura kuti, "Iwe wakatora chikwereti chose, blah, blah, blah ..." uye uchitaura kushungurudzika kwako, ndizvo zvaungataura mumoyo mako, dzokera zvakare nzira yako uchishandisa mazano ari pamusoro apa.
Iti panzvimbo iyo, "Zvinotarisa sokuti ini handina kutamba nhengo mubhuku reJohnson.Zita rangu harisi kuve kupi pane iri runyorwa, uye handina kupa chikwereti chero kupi zvandinoona."
(Ndakashandisa dzimwe nzira dzekukurukurirana dzakadai semutauro weI-ini zvakare mumashoko aya.Cherechedza kuti ndakadzivisa kushandisa mazwi andinonzwa nokuti iyi inotaura nezvemwoyo, pasina uchapupu uye chokwadi.Zvirevo mumashoko aya hazvikwanisi kupikiswa, asi ini ndinonzwa kutaura zviri nyore kune waunoshanda naye kuti arambe.)
Ita chirevo chako chekutanga uye rega kutaura.
Kana munhu waunosangana naye achipindura, rega kuti apindure. Icho chimiro chevanhu, asi usaita chikanganiso chekuwedzera kune chirevo chako chokutanga, kuti uwedzere kururamisa chirevo chacho.
Kudzivirira kuti sei iwe unonzwa nenzira yaunofunga nayo zvinowanzokonzera kukakavara. Taura zvaunoda kuti utaure (kupikisana), uye ingotendera mumwe munhu kuti apindure.
Kunyanya sezvo iwe zvichida wakaisa hurukuro mumusoro wako kazhinji, unofunga kuti unoziva kuti mumwe munhu achapindura sei. Asi, kukanganisa kusvetuka kusvika ipapo, vasati vawana mukana wokupindura. Ramba muedzo wekutaura chimwe chinhu pane ino. Regai vaite.
Dzivisa kukakavadzana panguva yekurwisana.
Kusangana hakurevi kurwa. Zvinoreva kuti unoda kutaura zvawataura. Teerera pane zvavanoda kutaura . Kazhinji kacho inoguma ipapo.
Iwe unoda kuratidza mumwe munhu zvakanaka here kana kuti kwete? Mumwe munhu anofanira kutora mhosva here? Tora kuora mwoyo kwako kubva pachipfuva chako, uye enda mberi.
Ratidza kusagadzirisa kusagadzikana kwaunoda usati wasangana.
Kana ukasvika kune waunoshanda naye neshoko rekutanga, "Iwe wakatora chikwereti chose, blah, blah, blah ..." mhinduro yake inogona kunge iri kudzivirira chaizvo. Zvichida achataura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Hungu, iwe wakapiwa chikwereti." Ndakati mazita edu ose kumakurukota vhiki yapfuura. "
Kana iwe uchitoziva zvauri kutsvaga mukutarisana , apa ndipo paunotungamirira hurukuro. Usapindira mukukakavadzana pamusoro pekuti wakamboita here kana kuti haana kutaura chero chinhu kumubati wevhiki rakapera - iyo haisi iyo chaiyo uye hairegi kukusvitsa kuti usapedza chinangwa chekurwisana.
Mhinduro yako ingangodaro, "Ndinogona kuonga kana mune ramangwana kuti tishandise mazita edu ose pane zvinyorwa , uye tinosanganirana mune zvose zvinyorwa pamusoro pechirongwa."
Tarisa pamusoro penyaya chaiye yekutarisana.
Mumwe wacho angazobvumirana kana kusawirirana. Ramba uchienda kune nharo panguva ino, uye udzivise muedzo wose kuti upinde munharo. Taurai , asi musarwisana.
Nyaya yacho hauri kuwana chikwereti, uye iwe unoda zita rako pane zvinyorwa. Ndizvo. Hazvisi zvekupomerwa mhosva, pamusoro pezvakanaka kana chakaipa kana chimwe chinhu kunze kwekuda kwako kusarudza.
Iwe haunowanzotarisira kutarisana; iwe haungatombogutsikana zvachose, kana kuti unyanzvi mukupikisana. Zvisinei, zvinokosha kuti iwe utaure chimwe chinhu kana iwe uchinetseka uye wakatsamwa. Kana iwe usingakwanisi kumira iwe pachako, ndiani achadaro?
Zvimwe Nezvekurwisana Kunobatsira uye Kugadzirisa Kurwisana
Nokuda kwemamwe maonero pamusoro pekukakavara uye kukakavara, ona: